To me, the hardest part about motherhood is how much of ME I feel like I have had to give up.
That sounds petty and selfish and just wrong… but I know that I’m not alone when I say I miss the freedoms I had before children. I miss being on my own schedule, going places whenever I wanted, traveling, and so many of the other “pre-kids” luxuries.
That does not lessen the love that I have for children. That does not diminish my ability to be a loving mother. But it does cause me some stress from time to time. Both from the aspect that I feel guilty that I long for those freedoms, and I worry that I’m not being a good enough mother to the littles because of it.
I know that this time with small children, in the long run is short. I do my best to embrace it and cherish it, while keeping enough “me” in my daily life for sanity.
But sometimes, maybe I get a little off balance.
I’m so thrilled to be over at BonBon Break today talking about these feelings and pondering the question – Am I Enough?
I hope you’ll hop on over there and read it. It’s one of my favorite pieces because it’s just real. And I share a peek behind the curtain into a therapy session!
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Congrats on the piece. Hopping over to check it out. I can relate to your feelings. So much to do, and so little time. As moms, we often put ourselves last. But I keep trying to remind myself that everything is a phase. Someday the kids will be more independent. 🙂
I needed to read your article here today, as I was having a bit of a rough day myself after a hard morning after last night fighting Emma with homework a bit. So, thank you for your words here and sharing that even through the tough times our kids do still love us no matter what, as we do them.
I’m sorry you had a rough day. Yes, they continue to love us, even when we feel unloveable! Hope you’re having a better day friend!